WHY DADS ARE HAPPIER THAN MOMS

By KATIE BOHN-PENN STATE

Researchers looked at childcare through the lens of a “care context.” Going beyond measuring how much time mothers and fathers spend taking care of their children, the researchers also looked at the type of childcare activity, when and where it took place, who was present, and how much care was involved.

Cadhla McDonnell, a doctoral candidate in sociology and demography at Penn State, says the results suggest that while fathers in general are much more involved in their children’s lives now than in the past, parenting is still highly gendered.

“There are many types of activities that can be considered childcare, but some are more strenuous or less enjoyable than others,” McDonnell says. “A family trip to the playground is going to affect someone differently than changing diapers in the middle of the night, for example. In our study, we tried to capture those variations and see if they’re related to the differences we see between mothers’ and fathers’ moods.”

According to the researchers, previous work has shown that mothers tend to be more tired, stressed, and unhappy than fathers during caregiving. But sociodemographic characteristics alone could not explain some of these differences. The researchers were curious about whether taking a closer look at how childcare activities were divided between parents could help explain discrepancies between parents’ moods.

The researchers used data from the American Time Use Survey that the US Census Bureau collected. Data included information about 4,486 childcare activities, as well as who performed the activity and that person’s corresponding mood.

Additionally, the researchers analyzed each activity through the care context, which included five dimensions. The first was “activity type,” and included physical (basic needs like eating and sleeping), recreational (like play and sports), educational (helping with homework or meeting with teachers), and managerial (planning doctor visits or transporting children).

The remaining dimensions included when and where the activity took place, who was present during the activity, and how much time the activity took.

SOLO PARENTING OR TRIPS TO THE PARK?

The researchers found that fathers’ childcare activities were more likely to be recreational and take place on the weekend, while mothers’ activities were more likely to involve an infant and fit into the category of “solo parenting,” that is, parenting without a partner present.

Also, the researchers found that taking the context of childcare activities into account fully explained differences in mother and father happiness, and partially explained differences in stress. It did not explain differences in tiredness.

McDonnell says the study suggests that moms are generally more tired and stressed than dads, and that they also are doing more childcare activities that tend to produce more stress and less happiness. But it is still not clear why these differences exist.

“Our findings show that some aspects of parenting are more enjoyable than others and that the way childcare is distributed between mothers and fathers right now brings more emotional rewards for dads than for moms,” McDonnell says. “But it’s impossible to say from our data whether this is the result of personal choices or whether it’s a reaction to outside forces like job demands.”

MEANINGFUL FOR MOMS AND DADS

Additionally, the researchers found that despite their differences, one thing that remained consistent between mothers and fathers was how meaningful they found childcare.

“Traditionally caregiving has been seen as more central to women’s identities than it is to men’s, and that would suggest that mothers might find caring for their children more meaningful than fathers do,” McDonnell says. “But that’s not the case—mothers and fathers both found caring for children highly meaningful and there is no difference by gender.”

McDonnell says that in the future, additional research could focus on how gendered caregiving may have additional impacts on parents’ well-being.

“We know from other research that parents tend to have lower life satisfaction than non-parents, and this is especially true for women,” McDonnell says. “An interesting question could be how that’s related to gendered caregiving. Why do mothers seem to take on childcare in contexts that are less emotionally rewarding? For couples, how can they share caregiving in a way that is equally rewarding for both partners? These are all important questions.”

The research appears in the Journal of Family Issues.

Nancy Luke, an associate professor of sociology and demography at Penn State and professor at Brown University, also participated in this work. The Eunice Kennedy Shriver National Institute of Child Health and Human Development helped support the research.

A version of this post was previously published on futurity.org and is republished here with permission from the author.

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