There’s no greater feeling in the world than hitting it off with someone you really like. Whether it is the briefest eye contact or the slightest touch, it is enough to make your cheeks flushed. The spark between two people in the early stages of a relationship is what we call chemistry. It can send shockwaves across your body and make your heart skip a beat. All these subtle signals indicate that you are catching feels for this special person. But is that enough to make a relationship last in the long term? Here we break down the 5 personality traits that determine the chemistry between couples.
#1: Physical Attraction Toward Each Other
Physical attraction is important between a couple. People always tend to choose partners they find physically desirable. Whether it is their smile; the way they laugh; their personality; how they walk; how their eyes twinkle when they smile; there’s always something about the other person that makes your heart skip a beat. Some people might find the other person physically attractive right away. And for some, it might take a while to figure out they find attractive about the other one.
#2: Mutual Interest
Mutual interest can be about sharing common interests or basically just finding each other interesting. Shared interest can be anything. You might like to watch a certain genre of movies or a particular Tv series that you love. It can be also about hiking together or being passionate about traveling or cooking. However, it’s important to note that there are people with no shared interest who live happily. Opposites attract each other in many cases and they still manage to enjoy each other’s company. But for it to work out, it’s critical that you find each other interesting.
Intimacy is the foundation of any relationship. Intimacy helps us to open up to our partners. You can let down your guards and be completely vulnerable with your partner if you there is intimacy in your relationship. And intimacy can be both physical as well as emotional. Spoken words and even physical touch such as hand-holding and cuddling make us feel secure as well as connected to our partner. Intimacy builds trust when a relationship evolves over time and you know you can always count on your partner no matter what. Intimacy is a key factor to feel loved and needed in a relationship.
Here similarities don’t mean physical similarities. But matching each other on values, life goals, and beliefs. These core attributes dictate how the person is going to live the rest of their lives and reflect on their personalities as well. It’s unlikely that a relationship will survive if you don’t match with these traits of your partner because their values are not going to change. Whether it is your religious views or if you are from an orthodox or liberal family, everything comes into play when you are getting into a relationship with a different individual. If two people have completely different values and beliefs, it might create friction in their relationship which can drive them apart.
#5: Reciprocal Candor
Reciprocal candor paves the way to open and meaningful conversations. You can easily interact with your partner and connect on a deeper. Your conversations will flow easily and there will no awkward silences. You will feel free to express your ideas and emotions without worrying about being judged. When two people listen and understand each other, love grows naturally and you are at your utmost comfort in each other’s presence.
Keeping the spark alive takes time and work in any relationship. But if you have already ticked off these personality traits in your relationship, chances are that your relationship is going to survive the test of time.