When work stress starts to negatively impact your family, consider the advice of CEO dad Casey Graham.
For years, the Georgia-based leader of Gravy Solutions, a customer retention and payment recovery service, would take his bad day home with him. He was short with his two kids, depressed, emotionally disconnected and slightly on edge. And worse, he expected his family to deal with it and understand, he admitted in a LinkedIn post.
His behavior changed when he began thinking about his children as adults.
I asked myself:
1. Do I want my son to grow up emotionally unstable because he never knew which dad was coming home?
2. Do I want my daughter to accept this kind of behavior from her future husband?
3. Does my wife deserve to get my leftovers emotionally because I lost a deal that day?
Realizing the impact of his actions, the CEO felt sick to his stomach.
Since then, Casey has been doing a few things to prevent work woes from tainting his time with his wife and kids. Fortunately, his tips are so simple, all working parents can use them.
I listen to music on [the] way home, no calls.
I sit in [the] car when I get home and say out loud, ‘I’m daddy, not #CEO.’
I smile 😃 when I enter.
I ask questions at dinner.
[I’m] 100 percent not perfect but trying…
In the comments, working parents said they related to his post and shared their own strategies for keeping their bad-day energy at bay.
“I take a deep breath, and I stop and tell myself: ‘Today’s time, in this moment, just like today, will only be here once. The moment I see ‘my girlies’ (my wife and two girls, as I call them) is the most important moment I’ve faced all day. Lean in, love, be thankful and fully present as they deserve this at the very minimum,’” wrote one user.
“Large quantities of gratitude and empathy for my family have helped me be less of a grump and more involved. I celebrate your vulnerability and success,” added another.
A mom replied, “As I progress in my work life, I certainly don’t want my kids to suffer from it. I have taken to putting my phone in a drawer from dinner through bedtime so no one sees my screen firing off!”
As Casey’s post reminds us, it’s crucial to model good behavior in front of our spouse and kids. Even when we have unpleasant experiences during the day, we should still try to be the best versions of ourselves for our loved ones.