Whether you are new to a relationship or have been in a committed one for over five years, relationships take a lot of work. Yes, it would be so much easier when you are still in that phase where the sight of your partner makes you go weak in the knees or leave you speechless. Soon this phase will also wear out where it’s all unicorns and rainbows and you will snap back to reality. Every couple in the initial stage of a relationship are likely to believe their relationship to be perfect. But only time will tell if your relationship is going to last. As much as we would like to believe the concept of soulmates, relationships are built on trust, love, commitment and also work. It takes effort from both parties to be in a stable relationship where you feel secure and happy. And the funny thing about relationships is that despite being in love with your partner, you might still end up feeling stuck, lost, and unhappy. While it is easy to blame the other person for not being the perfect guy you thought he would be, maybe it’s time to reflect upon yourself and see how you can improve your relationship.
1. Keep Your Ego Aside
Steer clear from the big E because it can hinder you from true happiness. Ego is always the first thing that stops us from taking that much-needed step to accept our mistake and move on. Whether you had a spat with your partner or a silly argument, make sure one of you talk it out, apologize, and move on before it’s too late.
2. Check In With Each Other
With a job and the responsibilities that come with being an adult, it can become difficult to invest a lot of time in each other. However, a sweet text or a short conversation over the phone lets the other person know that you are thinking about them. Just check in to see how their day went or even what they had for lunch.
3. Be More Understanding About Each Other
Nobody is perfect, and even though you might believe so at the beginning of your relationship, with time, you will realize that your perfect boyfriend is also flawed. It’s important to accept each other with all their flaws and imperfections. Be open and try to see things from their perspective as well. You will be more at ease with each other when you are able to empathize with the other person.
4. Respect Each Other’s Boundaries
Sometimes either or both of you might not be on board with the idea of spending every waking minute with each other. Loving someone doesn’t mean you have to constantly be by their side all the time. Being independent will reflect in your relationship in a positive way as you become more confident and don’t have to rely on the other person for everything. This way both of you will have your space do the things you love, develop new hobbies or simply enjoy some me-time.
5. Communicate Your Likes And Desires
Each person has their own likes and desires and your partner’s expectations from the relationship might vary from yours. Even if you are not big on romantic gestures, simple gestures and surprises from your side might be just what your partner needs to feel loved and appreciated. So, talk it out and be open to what your partner expects from the relationship. This will also give you the opportunity to talk about your desires in bed and what makes you happy (wink, wink).
Don’t be disheartened if your relationship does not check all the above points. Now that you know what you are doing wrong, you can make the effort in improving your relationship, because let’s face it, there’s always room for progress in any relationship.