Off to Work She Goes

My first exposure to the working world came when I was in the sixth grade. Our small town had a Summer Recreation program where older kids could make a few bucks supervising dodge ball games and other activities designed to keep everybody busy and active during the summer break. I have no idea how much money we actually made, or how this didn’t violate child labor laws, but it was an actual paycheck for not doing much more than hanging out with my buddies, dishing out ice cream, and putting band aids on skinned knees.

From that point on I was pretty much always working. I spent a lot of time shoveling manure and stacking hay bales at my friend’s farm, did lawn maintenance at the town baseball fields, and spent a summer painting houses. I spent two years at a plant nursery making $4.25 an hour, two months at an Ames department store as a cashier, and two weeks in the housewares department at Caldor trying to figure out the difference between valance and regular curtains.

While working at Tri-Town grocery store I made more lifelong friends and have fonder memories than I do of my entire four years of high school.

The teenager now has her first job, a moment that I feel is just as memorable as first car, first kiss, or first apartment. I’m discounting the time she spent at a country store because she only got paid based on the store’s performance on that particular day. The only thing she ever seemed to come home with were some dubious right-wing conspiracy theories and revisionist history books. Apparently the US government was responsible for the cancellation of the post-apocalyptic television show Jericho, a shame because I really liked it.

She’s now the newest hostess at a local restaurant, working the dinner and evening shifts every Friday and Saturday night. These hours have the dual benefit of not interfering with her school work and also renewing the interest of all parties in the procurement of her driver’s license, her next big life milestone.

I have no idea how long she’ll stay there or how she will one day look back on her time at this job. So far she seems to like the people and the money that she is earning. Its much more lucrative than collecting our empty bottles and cans. She’s learning responsibility, going in on a night when she wasn’t feeling well, and financial strategy, giving us half of her earnings to save.

She’s proud of herself and we are proud of her. Welcome to the workforce, honey. Only forty-eight more years until retirement.

This post was previously published on ThirstyDaddy and is republished here with permission from the author.

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Door Knob Revelations

As therapists, we’ve all learned that our patients reveal their most painful conflicts during the last thirty seconds of a session, just when they are ready to leave the office. Often they already have their hand on the door knob. Recently I experienced this rather dramatically as I terminated with a woman I had seen for about 25 years.

I first saw this woman, now in her mid-seventies, during some of the darkest hours of her life. I treated her for major depression with a combination of medication and psychodynamic psychotherapy. During more recent years her symptoms remitted, so I saw her only every three or four months for about twenty minutes to renew her medications and to catch up on her life.

At the beginning of her final session with me, she initiated our meeting by saying, “Dr. Olson, I read your book [Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight, a Psychiatrist’s Own Story]. I learned a lot more about you than I needed to know!” With some anguish in her voice, she asked, “Why did you do that?”

I told her that I felt I needed to reveal some of the most private details of my struggle with my sexual orientation in order for the reader to connect with me. I wanted the reader to know that I understand from the inside what the experience of coming out in mid-life is like. I wanted to convey that I had experienced how difficult it is to let go of an inauthentic life for one that is more true to oneself.

I also told her that I could not have written it earlier in my professional life because I would not have wanted my patients to know me in such a deeply personal way. I now realize that writing Finally Out was my own career door knob revelation.

After spending most of her time processing what her treatment experience with me had been like, in the last thirty seconds she stood up to leave and said, “I’ve always thought I might be a lesbian.” After 25 years and countless hours together, it was only then that she finally felt comfortable enough to reveal to me her long held secret. Then she asked if it would be appropriate to give me a hug, thanked me, and left my office for the final time.

I have practiced psychiatry in central Iowa now for over thirty years. I have been rewarded repeatedly to hear from my patients how I threw them a life-saving buoy when they needed it. I also hear the anxiety in their voices as they say, “I’m happy for you, but. . . I feel like my safety net is gone.”

Now, I don’t believe that it was me who kept them afloat all these years. I have always approached treatment in a collaborative fashion. I believe in the adage that we don’t help people by giving them a fish but by teaching them how to catch a fish. All but a very few of my patients have learned the skills they need to survive on their own. Most could have their maintenance medications managed by a primary care physician. The more complicated ones have been referred to very competent professionals. I feel far less anxious about their futures than they do.

I have practiced psychotherapy with the two primary tenets: Always zero in on the affect, and always explore the resistance. Their friends and family have said, “There, there, don’t cry,” or admonished them, “Pull yourself together.” Instead, I have said, “I see there’s a tear in your eye. Tell me what that’s all about.” It always works. They begin to unload the burdens of their lives in ways they have never before experienced.

But if they say, “I can’t talk about it,” my response is something like this: “You don’t have to tell me anything you don’t want to, but I need to understand why you feel you can’t tell me. How have others hurt you when you trusted them?” Inevitably, it enhances their capacity to trust me.

I learned in my residency that the healing powers of psychotherapy come from:
1. Genuine warmth
2. Accurate empathy
3. Unconditional positive regard

Being a therapist is a calling, not a career choice. We are drawn to it because we know what the pain of emotional turmoil feels like. Through the years patients have told me that their pain is much worse than difficult childbirths, kidney stones or cancer. Those who don’t understand what we do, attempt to diminish us by saying we’re all crazier than our patients. But we use that capacity for empathy to connect with our patients. We don’t just say, “I feel your pain.” We say, “I know how you feel, and I know that some how we’ll find a way to help you feel better. Tomorrow will not be the same as today.”

Through our supervision and training we have learned that we cannot remain embedded in their pain, but rather we must move away from it again to develop a rational approach to help them deal with their suffering. We give them hope that we will help them find a way to make their lives better.

Genuine warmth, I suspect, is a gift that not everyone has; I don’t know that it can be taught. We want to believe that we have “unconditional positive regard” for everyone, but it often requires hard work to get past some of our own prejudices and stereotyping. We don’t always love everyone as much as we may wish to.

Everything we know about neurotransmitters, Rorschach tests and systems theory may simply embellish the more spiritual aspects of emotional healing.

How many times through the years have I told my patients who are grieving that love and risk are inseparable? The older we become the more we recognize that life is not about the number of toys we accumulate, but instead it is about the capacity to connect with others on a deeply human level.

As I approach retirement, I have had to say goodbye over and over to people who have revealed to me the most intimate details of their lives. These last few weeks of practicing have been extremely difficult. Every day I say goodbye to people I have come to care deeply about. But what a gift I have been given to have work that I have never stopped loving, and I have never felt like it didn’t matter.

As the old woman I mentioned above left my office, I told her that I have become a part of her, and she will continue to have conversations with me inside her head. By now she can almost predict my responses.

Perhaps writing Finally Out was an attempt to leave a legacy, to continue the work I’ve done after I close my office for the final time. I feel blessed to have had a career that has enriched my life in so many ways and one I continue to care passionately about. How incredibly grateful I am that I responded to being called to being a psychiatrist.

This post was previously published on Psychology Today and is republished here with permission from the author.

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Hone Your Skills (or Wear Sunglasses) If You Are Going to People-Watch

“You can observe a lot by just watching.”

– Yogi Berra

I may need to leave my writing hobbit hole more often

My social graces are slipping. Case in point was The Christmas Cake incident at a Christmas craft show last year. I was a vendor, selling recycled Christmas cards of all things. But that’s beside the point.

Perhaps not surprisingly, there were periods of down-time when nobody was overly interested in my wares, so I would turn my attention to people-watching…which I should know, by the age of 50, is an art. Done correctly, it can be a brilliant study in anthropological behavior. Done poorly, it can quickly denigrate into just plain rudeness. I shall leave it to up to you to decide which category the Christmas Cake incident falls under.

Picture this…there I was, sitting at my table, minding my own business and contemplating which seasonal snack to sample next, and up walked this beautiful bi-racial young family. The guy was black, handsome and massive. The woman was white, pretty and proudly carrying their new baby in her arms. Their 3-year-old adorable little boy toddled alongside, toy truck in hand.

Another white guy, about my age, followed behind. He seemed to be with them but wasn’t saying much. I eventually figure out he was the woman’s father…not because I’m brilliant but because she said, “Dad, do you have seventy-five cents?”

Anyway, they all stopped at the vendor across from me and proceeded to have an in-depth conversation about buying a vaporizer, of all things. You know, those plug-in deals that spritz moisture and scented essential oils into a room.

For some reason, I found this family fascinating. But I didn’t want to be rude and stare too much, so I reached into my backpack and pulled out a piece of Christmas cake and in between bites, snuck glances at them. Now bear in mind, they were only a few feet away from me.

I suspect my fascination trumped my ability to be discreet because right after I took a large bite of cake, the guy turned around and looked right at me. Unfortunately, I had bitten off more than I can chew (which happens more often than not), so at the very moment he turned around to look at me, there was a big piece of Christmas cake half in my mouth and half out.

Our eyes met. Busted! I was beyond mortified.

Then he started walking towards me. Oh no! I bit the cake in half, madly chewed the part that was in my mouth and put the other half back into the plastic wrap in my hand. By this point, the guy was standing about a foot in front of me.

“Is that…rum cake?” he asked (in a deep rumbling voice with a hint of Jamaican accent).

I shook my head, wide-eyed. I couldn’t answer because my mouth was full (which would have been rude…oh, like I hadn’t been rude enough already?).

He took a step closer to get a better look at the remnants of crumbled cake in my hand.

“That,” he said, “looks like the rum cake we have in Jamaica.”

At which point the little blonde head of his tiny wife peeked around her massive husband. “No,” she said, after a quick assessment of the remaining evidence in my hand. “That is not rum cake. That’s Christmas cake.”

Then she returned to the business of choosing a vaporizer. The man looked at me and shrugged. Our conversation was over…as were my days of staring at people.

Unless I’m wearing sunglasses.

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Integrity Is Everything

Do we take it for granted that people will sometimes lie, cheat or steal in order to keep their jobs?

During the recent impeachment hearings, a radio commentator suggested that Republicans are afraid to go against Trump in any way, for fear of being “primaried” next year, and ultimately losing their seats. I said to myself “this is crazy- doing the right thing is way more important than keeping your job!” I had not heard anyone say this – but it seemed obvious to me.

If you are a Trump supporter, don’t worry- there are plenty of other examples. Tobacco executives testifying to Congress in 1994 that nicotine is not addictive. Being asked to do something unethical at your job. We take it for granted that people will sometimes lie, cheat or steal in order to keep their job, that losing your job is a disaster to be avoided at all costs- but I have come to believe that part of being a man is to do what is right at all times- that integrity is everything.

My Dad once was denied tenure at the college he taught because he supported the “wrong” guy to be Dean or something- and I was never so proud of him! I was too young to worry about him finding another job so we could eat and have a roof over our heads- he was my Dad! He will always provide for us! It is easier for me to not worry now because I have no kids to support, and with a lifestyle that is so frugal that I will get by even if I have to go back to delivering pizzas. Or that I never cared much for power or status. Even when I was poor, I felt financially secure.

A Congressman or woman should also be OK if they were not re-elected. Many were rich before they ran for office, and can go back to the private sector and do just fine. Or run for another office. The former Ambassadors and such who testified with dignity and courage you just KNOW will be OK.

The tobacco guys- well, if you are being paid millions of dollars a year you should have enough put away that you can get a house on the beach and drink margaritas and fish all day. Or whatever the hell you want! Volunteer at a homeless shelter, run a small business- the possibilities are endless.

We more ordinary folks often did something in the past that we can go back to until something better comes along. For women, it is often waiting tables, for men, construction, for me pizza-these jobs are available anywhere. And for someone who is financially independent, and has enough FU money in the bank- whatever they want!

The point is that a person is freer to live a life of honor and integrity if their material needs are few and if what other people think of you is not important. The love of money- and power and status- really is the root of all evil- and isn’t it cool to be counter-cultural, to be your own man or woman?

What more do we really need?

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The Different Types of Psychiatrists and What They Do

What is psychiatry?

Psychiatry is a field of medicine where medical doctors diagnose, prevent, and treat mental illness. They help people to cope with mood disorders and behavioral conditions. There are different types of psychiatry. The most common kind is adult psychiatry, where the providers see their clients individually in private practice. A client may be seeing a psychiatrist for depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, PTSD, schizophrenia, or borderline personality disorder. Medication can help people manage their mental health. The best way to use psychiatric medication is in conjunction with therapy. In addition to adult psychiatry, there are other specialties that you might now be aware of, and they’re not just seeing a psychiatrist in private practice. There are many different types of psychiatrists. Here are some other psychiatric specialties.

Geriatric psychiatry

Geriatric psychiatry is a subspeciality of psychiatry where psychiatrists treat senior citizens. They may work with them in private practice or in senior homes or residential treatment centers. Clients in geriatric psychiatric may be dealing with a variety of issues such as Alzheimer’s, Dementia, depression, anxiety, and feelings of loneliness or isolation. Seniors also live with mental illnesses such as the ones mentioned above. People with mental health conditions age like the rest of us. If you’re a senior and have any mental health concerns, seeing a geriatric psychiatrist can help. Geriatric psychiatry has a specific study and curriculum. It depends on where you live in the world as to what the requirements are for this type of psychiatry.

Forensic psychiatry

Forensic psychiatry is a type of psychiatry that relates to the criminal justice system. It’s the intersection between law and psychiatry. According to the American Academy of Psychiatry and Law, forensic psychiatry is a subspecialty of psychiatry. It’s where scientific and clinical expertise is applied in legal contexts. A forensic psychiatrist may work in the police system, directly with witnesses in a court setting, provide services to determine a client’s ability to stand trial, or provide therapy to inmates.

Addiction psychiatry

Addiction psychiatry is a branch of the field where psychiatrists treat those who have substance abuse issues. They might have addictions to sex, food, gambling, or compulsive lying. Addiction psychiatrists understand that there can be a chemical component to why people have addictive behaviors. The field is growing and expanding rapidly. Addiction psychiatry is in high demand, especially in areas of the world that have drug epidemics, such as places suffering from an opioid crisis.

Child and adolescent psychiatry

Child and adolescent psychiatry (or pediatric psychiatry) is a branch of the field that focuses on diagnosing and treating mental disorders in children and adolescents. Child and adolescent psychiatrists understand the biopsychosocial factors that influence children and adolescents to develop these disorders. It’s the idea of nature versus nurture. Children may be born with a predisposition to mental illness because of their parents’ genetics, or they may be survivors of trauma. They develop mental health issues due to the trauma they endure. Regardless of the causes of their mental health conditions, these children need the care of a specially trained psychiatrist. A child and adolescent psychiatrist have a fine understanding of child development as well as mental illness. They can diagnose and treat children who are struggling with mental health disorders and give them the support they need to live a good quality of life.

Emergency psychiatry

Emergency psychiatry takes place in crisis intervention centers or hospitals. Many times emergency psychiatric services deal with suicidal patients. It’s a high-stress field, and the cases can be complex. When you’re working in the emergency room, you’re often dealing with extremely volatile patients. It’s not easy to cope with these circumstances for long periods. There may be a patient who has attempted suicide, a victim of domestic violence, or a client who has overdosed. An emergency psychiatrist has to have tough skin to deal with these situations.

Psychiatry and online therapy

There are many different types of psychiatry. If you’re seeing an online therapist, you could be seeing a psychiatrist as a complement to your treatment. Regardless of what your mental health issues are, medication could be helpful to you. There’s no harm in consulting a psychiatrist. There are circumstances where a person’s life can be drastically improved by taking medication. If you have a mental illness or mental health condition, you don’t have to feel ashamed. You deserve to live a good quality of life, and maybe working with a psychiatrist can help you.

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Will Your Partner Make A Good Parent? (8 Signs)

Will Your Partner Make A Good Parent (8 Signs)

Have you been thinking of starting a family with your partner lately? If yes, then congratulations. We’re sure you and your partner would have given it a good thought before going ahead with the plan to conceive. But if you are yet to get pregnant, then certain thoughts might already start occurring to you. Will your partner be ready to help you with the baby’s duties? Is he ready for parenthood at all? If you are having similar doubts, then here are 8 signs that you can look out for that says your partner will prove to be a good parent:

1. Your Partner Is Not A Control Freak

Your Partner Is Not A Control Freak

If you feel that your partner is very controlling in nature, then this could mean that they are not suitable for parenthood. Look out for signs such as incessant questioning in trivial matters, cutting you off from family and friends, or often resorting to threats to get things done their way. All these are signs of a person who is too controlling and can prove to be disastrous to a child.

2. He’s A Very Attentive Person

He's A Very Attentive Person

Kids are big-time attention seekers. From crying to pretending to fall, they simply love to attract the attention of their parents toward themselves. Even as they grow, they look out for their parents to patiently and attentively listen to their stories and problems. So, if your partner is an attentive person naturally, then it is a good sign that he’ll make a good parent.

3. Open To Learning From Others

Open To Learning From Others

Most of us believe that we know everything. But it takes a certain amount of humility and modesty to be willing to learn from others, especially after becoming a parent. Because no matter how learned you might be, there will still be a lot of new things to learn from others after a child arrives in your life. If your partner demonstrates this trait, then he will surely be a good parent.

4. Your Partner Always Wished To Have Kids

Your Partner Always Wished To Have Kids

Some people freak out with the very mention of marriage or kids. This is because it is a huge deal for them to shoulder such responsibilities. However, if your partner always spoke fondly about having kids even before you started planning, then he’ll make a good parent.

5. Does Not Get Easily Annoyed

Does Not Get Easily Annoyed

Some people get easily annoyed or are short-tempered. Of course, this can change with time. However, if your partner is calm and composed in nature, then know that it’s a sign of good parentage. Kids can, at times, push you over the edge. At such times, it helps to deal with them with patience instead of getting annoyed.

6. Is A Loving Person By Nature

Is A Loving Person By Nature

Who doesn’t love a person who is always smiling or has a sunny disposition? Often, people get attracted to someone who is a loving person. Such a person can have a positive impact on your child during their growing years.

7. Are Responsible For Their Actions

Are Responsible For Their Actions

Being responsible for one’s actions is probably one of the most important traits you need to look for in your partner. Most people do not realize the impact of their actions on young minds. Kids are quick learners. But more than verbal instructions, they learn quickly by emulating their parents’ actions. So, if your partner is responsible with his words and actions, especially in public, then he’s definitely parent material.

8. Willingly Make Adjustments

Willingly Make Adjustments

Your partner might be used to all the attention and love that you shower on him. But, he needs to know that once the baby arrives, your love and attention will get divided. And, if he is willing to make those adjustments with you for the sake of the baby, then he’ll turn out to be a good parent for sure.

Does your partner exhibit any or all of the signs mentioned above? If yes, then you need not worry and simply go ahead with your pregnancy plans. If he doesn’t, then don’t fret. Discuss your expectations with him and plan your family accordingly.

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101 Beautiful Sibling Quotes

Beautiful Sibling Quotes

You grow with them. You fight with them, but you love them so much that you’d fight with others to protect them. Siblings can be annoying, but they are also the sweet and lovable monsters you cannot live without. And for a few lucky ones, they are also the best friends who are always around in times of need.

Your siblings are always with you and for you, no matter how much you argue or fight. In this MomJunction post, we celebrate that special bond between siblings and cherish it with some of the most touching and beautiful sibling quotes.

Sibling Love Quotes

You share a sweet and sour relationship with your siblings. You want them, and you don’t want them. Such is usually the bond, which is depicted by some sweet and lovable quotes on sibling love.

  1. Siblings – the definition that comprises love, strife, competition and forever friends.” – Byron Pulsifer
  2. You cannot live without only one enemy, and they are your siblings.
  3. Sisters and brothers are the truest, purest forms of love, family, and friendship, knowing when to hold you and when to challenge you, but always being a part of you.” – Carol Ann Albright-Eastman
  4. A sibling is the lens through which you see your childhood.” – Ann Hood
  5. A sibling represents a person’s past, present, and future.” – John Corey Whaley
  6. In some ways, siblings, and especially sisters, are more influential in your childhood than your parents.” – Deborah Tannen
  7. A plenty of relationships are made and broken, but siblings stay forever.”
  8. Brothers and sisters separated by distance joined by love.” – Chuck Danes
  9. No matter how much you dislike your siblings, they are there with you whenever you need them.”
matter how much you dislike
  1. Siblings are the people we practice on, the people who teach us about fairness and cooperation and kindness and caring quite often the hard way.” – Pamela Dugdale
  2. Siblings don’t realize they are making special memories for the future. They just know that they are having fun.”
  3. If you have a big sister, you will understand that she is much better than a princess.”
  4. Siblings fight and fall. But whenever you fall alone, they will always be there to pick you up.”
  5. Growing apart doesn’t change the fact that for a long time we grew side by side; our roots will always be tangled. I’m glad for that.” – Ally Condie
  6. Brother and sister, together as friends, ready to face whatever life sends. Joy and laughter or tears and strife, holding hands tightly as we dance through life.” – Suzie Huitt
  7. We hang out, we help one another, we tell one another our worst fears and biggest secrets, and then just like real sisters, we listen and don’t judge.” – Adriana Trigiani
  8. Your sibling may take a different path in life. But your bond with them will be forever.”
  9. They love each other. They’re brother and sister. It’s one for all and all for one.” – Joe Ziemba
love each other
  1. Our brothers and sisters are there with us from the dawn of our personal stories to the inevitable dusk.” – Susan Scarf Merrell
  2. Half the time when brothers wrestle, it’s just an excuse to hug each other.” – James Patterson
  3. Our paths might change as life goes on. But we would need each other, and we will be there for each other.”
  4. We support each other so well. We read each other’s mind, hear each other’s soul, and look at each other’s heart.”
  5. Hand in hand, we overcome all the obstacles and help each other in fulfilling dreams. Siblings stand shoulder to shoulder so that nobody can come against us. “

Quotes On Sibling Bond

The bond between siblings is the purest and truest form of affection and love. They are family, friends, and sometimes even enemies to each other. The quotes next define this bond better. Read on.

  1. Our sibling bond is not eye to eye. Rather it is heart to heart.”
  2. Cause even if we change, we’ll always be the same.” – R5 ‘All Night’
  3. Sisters function as safety nets in a chaotic world simply by being there for each other.” – Carol Saline
  4. Brothers and sisters can provide the most encouragement and support when life’s trials get us down. Talk to them!” – Catherine Pulsifer
  5. It is the brothers and sisters who teach one another the lifelong lessons of getting along or not.” – Jane Isay
  6. Your brother or sister may not solve your issues. But they will surely not let you face anything alone.”
  7. We don’t always need someone to fix us. Just someone’s presence is enough. And when we have our siblings at the side, we already feel strong and supported.”
  8. Sibling relationships outlast marriages, survive the death of parents, resurface after quarrels that would sink any friendship. They flourish in a thousand incarnations of closeness and distance, warmth, loyalty, and distrust.” – Erica E. Goode
  9. What sets sisters apart from brothers and also from friends is a very intimate mashing of heart, soul, and the mystical cords of memory.” – Carol Saline
Thats the function of big brothers
  1. Siblings protect each other, are there for each other, and love each other. They fight, argue, and scream. But all of this is nothing but love.”
  2. Sisters and brothers just happen, we don’t get to choose them, but they become one of our most cherished relationships.” Wes Adamson
  3. Our siblings. They resemble us just enough to make all their differences confusing, and love no matter what we choose to make of this, we are cast in relation to them our whole lives long.” – Susan Scarf Merrell
  4. What brothers say to tease their sisters has nothing to do with what they really think of them.” – Esther Friesner
  5. Your sister will listen to you when you have to talk, she will laugh when you make her laugh and will hold you when you are sad.”
  6. A sibling may be the keeper of one’s identity, the only person with the keys to one’s unfettered, more fundamental self.” – Marian Sandmaier
  7. Having a sister is like having a best friend you can’t get rid of. You know whatever you do, they will still be there.” – Amy Li
  8. We all have competitive relationships with our siblings.” – John Benjamin Hickey
  9. I have siblings. And there are certain things I know that I can push their buttons. And they know they have certain things where they can push mine,” – Catherine Zeta-Jones
  10. When siblings play with each other, they stay close always with each other.”
  11. Brothers and sisters have a right to annoy each other. And they can do it even when they grow older.”
  12. Do you know what friendship is.. It is to be brother and sister; two souls which touch without mingling, two fingers on one hand.” – Victor Hugo
  13. Being a big or small brother is much better than being a superhero.”
  14. Siblings: children of the same parents, each of whom is perfectly normal until they get together.” – Sam Levenson
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Inspirational Sibling Quotes

There is fun, there is laughter, but there is also a great learning experience from your siblings. On that note, let’s check some motivational quotes on the sibling bond.

  1. He is my most beloved friend and my bitterest rival, my confidant and my betrayer, my sustainer and my dependent, and scariest of all, my equal.” – Gregg Levoy
  2. Positive. Reliable. Ambitious. Helpful. Caring. This is how my sibling is.”
  3. Your siblings are the only people in the world who know what it’s like to have been brought up the way you were.” – Betsy Cohen
  4. When brothers agree, no fortress is so strong as their common life.” – Antisthenes
  5. It is a memorable experience growing up with a brother or sister – we have someone on whom we can tell on, on whom we can lean, and someone with whom we can make unlimited cherishable moments.”
  6. Your brother can play multiple roles. He can trouble you like a sister, take care of you like a mother, pamper you like a father, and have fun with you like a friend.”
  7. Brother and sister share a strong bond. When they are together, they can win any battle.”
  8. Siblings have a unique relationship. They share a secret language – a private code that unlocks common experiences. They are family, tied together by kinship throughout life.” – Kenneth J. Doka
  9. The best sibling you can have is a brother or sister who pushes you to 10X levels of success!” – Grant Cardone
Theres no single day when you don’t fight
  1. You learn being in competition when you grow with your brother or sister.”
  2. Your parents leave you too soon and your kids and spouse come along late, but your siblings know you when you are in your most inchoate form.” – Jeffrey Kluger
  3. Your brother is a person who knows what wrong is going on with you and he will help you smile even in the most stressful times,”
  4. A brother is your playmate first and then he becomes your best friend for the entire life.”
  5. To the outside world, we all grow old. But Not to brothers and sisters. We know each other as we always were. We know each other’s hearts. We share private family jokes. We remember family feuds and secrets, family griefs and joys. We live outside the touch of time.” – Clara Ortega

Funny Quotes On Siblings

It’s exciting to be with brothers and sisters, even though they are sometimes annoying. That’s what makes this relationship sweet and sour. On that note, let’s see some funny siblings’ quotes. 

  1. The highlight of my childhood was making my brother laugh so hard that food came out his nose.” – Garrison
  2. I grew up with six brothers. That’s how I learned to dance – waiting for the bathroom.” – Bob Hope
  3. Brothers don’t hug or don’t hit each other. What they do is give high-five on each other’s face.”
  4. I have you as a brother and so I am all smiles. And I laugh hard as I can’t do anything about it.”
  5. Big sisters are the crab grass in the lawn of life.” – Charles M. Schulz
  6. Sibling rivalry was, and still is to this day, rampant in my family. We were all competing for my parent’s divided attention.” – Janine di Giovanni
  7. It takes two men to make one brother.” – Israel Zangwill
  8. A brother is a brother, and then he becomes a bother, and later he becomes a friend.”
  9. Older siblings will use you for their fun and entertainment but can break anyone’s head who troubles you.”
  10. Having lots of siblings is like having built-in best friends.” – Kim Kardashian
Never let any sister comb your hair
  1. Siblings that say they never fight are most definitely hiding something.” – Lemony Snicket
  2. Siblings are similar to free insurance. They will help you give a spare part when you need one.”
  3. Brothers is a group that is their oldest competition.”
  4. When you live with sisters, you might feel you are in Cinderella’s house. You will feel you work more and are not appreciated, and your sisters are evil.”
  5. If you think I’m crazy, what are you going to say when you meet my sibling?”
  6. Brothers are similar to the fat and thick thighs. They will always be together.”
  7. If you want to know how your girl will treat you after marriage, just listen to her talking to her little brother.”
  8. Brothers can sit in a room and be together and just be completely comfortable.” – Leonardo DiCaprio
  9. He is stupid. She is crazy. But that’s a funny combination in our family.”
  10. It snowed last year too: I made a snowman and my brother knocked it down and I knocked my brother down and then we had tea.” – Dylan Thomas
  11. My elder brother won’t die, and my younger brothers seem never to do anything else.” – Oscar Wilde
  12. What strange creatures brothers are!” – Jane Austen
  13. We are sisters, if I am mad at someone, you are mad at them too. End of story.” – Janice Reynolds
mad at them too
  1. We are siblings. I am always there to pick you when you fall. But only once I’m done with my laughing.”
  2. I always say you are my adopted mother. But please don’t tell our parents as they said it’s a big secret of our family.”
  3. Growing up with insane siblings gives you a feeling of sitting in a roller coaster. It gives you jerks and surprises all the way.”
  4. “That feeling when you are ready, excited, and jumping to see your sibling. And then you find them wearing your clothes.”
  5. When we say keep up the secrets. That doesn’t count our siblings. For sure!”
  6. A sister will always notice her sister’s first gray hairs with glee.” – Allison M. Lee
  7. Siblings are the combination of a sweet relationship and pain in the neck.”
  8. The rule of siblings: if your siblings get something you want, you try to take it, break it, or say it’s no good.” – Patricia Fleming
  9. We are sisters. We are the two same nuts from one tree.”
  10. I learned many life lessons from watching my big sister make mistakes.” – Kate Summers
  11. “It is difficult to find a sibling who is smart, talented, and loving. I thank God as you have been that lucky person to have a sibling like me.”

Siblings joke around and make fun of each other. At the same time, they love each other and always stand for one another. They can’t imagine life without the other. If you have a sibling, don’t ignore them. Always be there for them and be the reason they smile and maybe even get annoyed once a while. But let them know you love them whenever you get the chance.

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5 Differences Between Loving Someone And Being In Love With Them (And Which One Is Better)

Differences Between Loving Someone And Being In Love With Them

Love is the most profound emotion a human can experience. Love comes in different forms and ways. Romantic love is, perhaps, the most discussed and sought after. When you do stumble upon someone who you can connect with romantically, it can sweep you off your feet. Being in love with a person means getting physically and emotionally attracted to them. Their smiles can cause butterflies in our stomach, and spending an hour of quality time with them can make a bad day better. When we find someone we like, our brain immediately releases ‘happy hormones.’ These are feel-good hormones that instantly relieve stress and improve the mood. These happy hormones are called oxytocin and dopamine(1).

There is a difference between loving someone and being in love with them. And for years, people have argued as to which one is better. While being in love with someone has been linked to infatuation, loving someone is a more old-school kind of love. In this article, we argue both sides and give you the differences so you can decide for yourself which one is better.

1. Loving Someone Is A Choice, Being In Love Isn’t

Loving Someone Is A Choice

When you meet someone you find attractive, you are immediately drawn in by feelings of lust, infatuation, and obsession. You find yourself thinking about them quite involuntarily. You try to be as close to them as possible. It’s all very movie-like. And there’s a rush whenever you do get in contact with them. When you love someone, you voluntarily choose to accept and love them with all their flaws. You want good things to happen to them and things to work out for them. You don’t have to always be around them, and you choose to stand by them no matter what.

2. When You Love Someone, You Put Them First

When You Love Someone

When you love someone, it’s less about what you can get from them. Rather, it’s more about what you can contribute to making the relationship grow and get stronger; what you can do to make the other person happy. This is not the case when being in love with the person. Being in love often involves doing things just because it will make you feel good. Loving someone, unlike being in love, means giving your time, patience, and attention because the other person requires it. It means accepting behaviors and flaws of theirs without any terms or conditions.

3. Being In Love Is Short-Lived, Loving Someone Is A Long Term Commitment

Being In Love Is Short-Lived

Being in love with someone often stems from feeling infatuated and attracted to the person. This is not the case with loving someone. When you love someone, you stay with them long after the initial rush begins to fade. You stay with them and help each other grow and overcome life’s hurdles.

4. Being In Love Means Wanting Good For Yourself, Loving Someone Is Wanting Good For Them

Being In Love Means Wanting Good For Yourself

When you love someone, it’s less about what they can give you and more about what is right for them. You stop making selfish decisions that can negatively impact the other person and start making decisions that are good for the other person and your relationship. You know you love that person when you want only the best for them.

5. Ownership And Partnership

Ownership And Partnership

When you love someone, it’s less about owning the person. You don’t try to dictate or control the other person’s actions to suit your convenience. Instead, you work on the relationship as partners. When you love someone, you want to share experiences and grow together. There is a lot more trust and faith in the relationship and each other.

All of us need to note that to get to the point where we can love someone, it requires a lot of time, patience, and maturity. Good relationships don’t develop all of a sudden. It takes time, patience, and work. Both are great to be in. It all depends on you and your partner’s needs and wants.

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How To Establish a Great Milk Supply Right Away

How To Establish a Great Milk Supply Right Away

All mamas know the importance of breastfeeding. Most of us try our best to breastfeed our baby at least for the first 6 months of life. But despite doing our best to continue the milk supply, our girls can slow down. However, there is a lot that you can do to get the supply going before leaving the hospital.

How To Establish a Great Milk Supply Right Away1

If you have a baby on the way and would prefer breastfeeding, continue reading our article to know the simple steps that you can take to ensure a great milk supply.

1. Breastfeed As Soon As Possible

Breastfeed As Soon As Possible

Breastfeed soon after birth preferably within an hour or two after you have delivered your baby (1). Most hospitals would arrange a skin to skin contact soon after birth and provide support to breastfeed your little one. Usually, a nurse will be there by your side to assist you with breastfeeding. If you have any concerns or worries regarding breastfeeding or how to hold your baby, don’t hesitate to ask your midwife or the nurse.

2. Breastfeed Often

Breastfeed Often

Breastfeeding work on ‘supply and demand.’ So the more you breastfeed your baby, the more milk will be produced by your breasts. The suckling motion of the baby on your breast will trigger certain hormones in the body to facilitate milk production. The breast muscles will then contract to allow the flow of milk through milk ducts. This is known as let-down reflex (2).

Breastfeed Often1

Try to breastfeed your baby 8-12 times a day to maintain a constant milk supply. While breastfeeding, let your baby decide when to stop.

3. Feed Your Baby From Both Breasts

Feed Your Baby From Both Breasts

Breastfeed from each breast alternatively to increase the production of breast milk. Feed your baby from the first breast and wait until they stop or slow down before switching to the other breast (3). If your baby falls asleep or feels full after breastfeeding from one side, make sure to start with the other breast during the next time. You can place a band on your bra strap to help you remember which breast you breastfed from the last time.

4. Pump

Pump 

If your baby is born premature or if there are any health complications with your baby, you may not be able to breastfeed right away (4). In such instances, you can start pumping to ensure that your milk supply doesn’t get affected by it. You can pump manually or get electric pumps to pump breastmilk and stimulate the breast milk supply.

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Pumping can also be helpful when your baby has missed a feeding or if you have milk leftover after feeding. It will also allow your partner to bond with the baby through some feeding time. And also give new mama some nap time.

5. Relax And Stay Calm

Relax And Stay Calm

Anxiety and stress can contribute to low milk supply (5). We know being a new mom can be hard and stressful, but find ways to relax and create a positive atmosphere around you so that it doesn’t affect your breast milk production. You can try breathing exercises or go out and get some fresh air to help you feel relaxed. If you feel overstressed or low, be sure to talk to your close ones or seek help from your doctor.

6. Avoid Drinking And Smoking

Avoid Drinking And Smoking

Drinking moderate to heavy amounts of alcohol and smoking can reduce your milk supply (6). So make sure that you stay away from it as long as you plan to breastfeed your little one. Alcohol can enter your baby’s bloodstream through breast milk. This, in turn, can affect their motor skills and disrupt their sleep patterns. So it’s safe to steer clear from alcohol while breastfeeding.

Even if you have a great breast milk supply, there are a lot of hurdles you will still have to face while breastfeeding your baby. If you are finding it hard to breastfeed, try changing breastfeeding positions or talk to a lactation consultant before switching to formula milk.

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नॉर्मल डिलीवरी के बाद टांकों की देखभाल कैसे करें? | Normal Delivery Ke Baad Tanke Ki Dekhbhal

Normal Delivery Ke Baad Tanke Ki Dekhbhal
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गर्भावस्था का समय पूरा होते ही डिलीवरी को लेकर महिला को कई बातें परेशान करने लगती हैं। इनमें सबसे ज्यादा चिंता का विषय प्रसव के दौरान होने वाले जोखिम को लेकर होता है। हालांकि, यह स्थिति सभी महिलाओं के लिए अलग-अलग हो सकती हैं और उनसे होने वाले स्वास्थ्य जोखिम भी अलग-अलग तरीके से गर्भवती महिला को नुकसान पहुंचा सकते हैं। मॉमजंक्शन के इस लेख में हम कुछ ऐसी ही एक मेडिकल कंडिशन के बारे में बात कर रहे हैं, जो सामान्य प्रसव के बाद टांके की आवश्यकता से जुड़ी है। इस लेख में सामान्य प्रसव के बाद टांके की आवश्यकता, टांकों को सूखने में लगने वाला समय और अन्य जरूरी जानकारी दी जाएगी।

सबसे पहले यह जानना जरूरी है कि सामान्य प्रसव के बाद भी टांके की आवश्यकता क्यों होती है।

सामान्य प्रसव के बाद टांकों की आवश्यकता क्यों होती है? | Normal Delivery Ke Tanke

दरअसल, डिलीवरी के समय मां के पेरिनियम (योनि और गुदा के बीच का क्षेत्र) पर अधिक दबाव पड़ता है, जिससे वह हिस्सा फट जाता है। पेरिनियम एरिया में जन्म के दौरान हुए इस घाव को भरने के लिए ही टांके लगाने की जरूरत पड़ती है। इसके बाद कुछ दिनों के लिए चलना दर्दनाक हो सकता है। यहां तक कि खांसी या छींकते समय भी दर्द का अनुभव हो सकता है (1), (2)

आइए, अब जानते हैं कि पेरिनियम क्षेत्र के फटने पर टांके लगाए जाते हैं या नहीं। 

पेरिनियम क्षेत्र के फटने पर टांकों की जरूरत कब पड़ती है?

यह इस पर निर्भर करता है कि बच्चे को जन्म देने के दौरान पेरिनियम क्षेत्र में कितना घाव हुआ है या वह कितना फटा है। पेरिनियम क्षेत्र अपने आप फटता है और इसे स्पोंटेनियस टियर्स (Spontaneous Tears) कहते हैं। इसे पेरिनेल ट्रॉमा (Perineal Trauma) यानी गुदा और योनि के बीच जन्म के समय अपने आप हुआ घाव के नाम से भी जाना जाता है। इस अवस्था में करीब 60-70% महिलाओं को टांके की जरूरत पड़ती है। इस स्थिति को चार वर्गों में बांटा गया है (3)

  1. फर्स्ट डिग्री टियर : फर्स्ट डिग्री टियर की स्थिति में केवल पेरिनेल की त्वचा को ही नुकसान पहुंचता है। इसमें भी टांके की आवश्यकता पड़ सकती है। 
  1. सेकंड डिग्री टियर : सेकंड डिग्री टियर की स्थिति में पेरिनेल की मांसपेशियों और त्वचा को नुकसान पहुंचता है। टांके की जरूरत यहां भी पड़ती है।
  1. थर्ड डिग्री टियर : थर्ड-डिग्री टियर में बाहरी और आतंरिक एनल स्फिंक्टर (अवरोधिनी गुदा) का भाग तक फट सकता है। इस कंडीशन में टांके की जरूरत पड़ती है। 
  1. फोर्थ डिग्री टियर : चौथी डिग्री टियर में एनल स्फिंक्टर कॉम्प्लेक्स और एनल एपिथिलियम (Anal Epithelium) यानी गुदा के आसपास की ऊपरी त्वचा तक फट सकती है। इस स्थिति में भी घाव भरने के लिए टांकों की आवश्यकता होती है।

आइए, अब जानते हैं कि सामान्य प्रसव के बाद टांके लगाने की प्रक्रिया क्या होती है।

सामान्य प्रसव के बाद टांके कैसे लगाए जाते हैं? | Normal Delivery Me Tanke Kaise Lagte Hain

पेरिनियम क्षेत्र को फैलाने के लिए जब डॉक्टर चीरा लगाते हैं, तो उसे एपिसियोटॉमी (Episiotomy) और जब यह अपने आप फैल जाता है, तो इसे पेरिनियल ट्रॉमा (Perineal Trauma) कहते हैं। इन दोनों ही स्थितियों में घाव भरने के लिए टांके की जरूरत पड़ती है। इन दोनों के उपचार और घाव भरने के समय के साथ-साथ लगभग सभी प्रक्रिया एक सामान ही होती है (2)

डिलीवरी के बाद मां को कुछ देर के लिए बेहोश करने के लिए लोकल एनिस्थेसिया दिया जाता है। उसके बाद प्रभावित क्षेत्र को टांके के जरिए बंद कर दिया जाता है। ये टांके कुछ दिनों में त्वचा के अंदर ही घुल जाते हैं और उन्हें निकालने की जरूरत नहीं होती है (4)

प्रसव के बाद टांके के संबंध में अन्य जानकारी के लिए पढ़ते रहें यह आर्टिकल।

टांके सूखने में कितने दिन लगते हैं?

टांके सूखने में कुछ हफ्ते लग सकते हैं (5)। इन्हें निकालने की जरूरत भी नहीं पड़ती है। टांके शरीर में अपने आप घुल जाते हैं (6)। फिर भी आपको इसके लिए सावधानी बरतनी चाहिए, जिसके बारे में आगे पूरी जानकारी दी जा रही है। इससे संबंधित अधिक जानकारी के लिए आप डॉक्टर की भी सलाह ले सकते हैं।

आइए, अब जानते हैं कि इस संवेदनशील क्षेत्र में राहत पाने के लिए क्या किया जा सकता है ?

मैं इस संवेदनशील क्षेत्र में राहत के लिए क्या कर सकती हूं?

इसके लिए आप निम्नलिखित उपायों को अपना सकती हैं (2)

  • अपने पास मौजूद नर्स से प्रभावित स्थान पर आइस पैक लगाने के लिए कहें। जन्म के बाद, पहले 24 घंटों में आइस पैक का उपयोग सूजन को कम कर सकता है और दर्द से राहत दिलाने में मदद कर सकता है।
  • हॉट बाथ लें, लेकिन डिलीवरी के बाद कम से कम 24 घंटे तक प्रतीक्षा करें।
  • हर बार स्नान से पहले बाथटब को कीटाणुनाशक से साफ करवाएं।
  • दर्द से राहत के लिए इबुप्रोफेन जैसी दवा लें सकते हैं। ध्यान रहे कि केवल डॉक्टर की सलाह पर ही इसका सेवन करें।
  • टांकों के लगे होने की स्थिति में किसी कठोर जगह जैसे फर्श या कुर्सी पर ऐसे ही बैठने की जगह तकिये का सहारा लेकर बैठें (1)। इससे टांकों को दर्द से बचाने में मदद मिल सकती है।

आइए, अब लेख के अगले भाग में जानते हैं कि डिलीवरी के बाद टांके भरने के लिए क्या कर सकते हैं? 

डिलीवरी के बाद टांके जल्दी भरने के लिए क्या करें?

टांकों को जल्दी भरने के लिए आप निम्नलिखित उपायों को अपना सकती हैं (2)

  • सिट्ज बाथ (Sitz Bath) का उपयोग किया जा सकता है। इसमें सिर्फ कूल्हों को पानी में डुबोया जाता है। इसके लिए आप एक बाथटब में इतना पानी लीजिए कि जिसमें आपका वूल्वर क्षेत्र (योनि के पास के हिस्से) पानी में डूबा रहे।
  • बाथटब की जगह एक चौड़े आकार का प्लास्टिक टब भी लिया जा सकता है।
  • इस प्रक्रिया को दिन में करीब दो बार किया जा सकता है। साथ ही आप डॉक्टर से भी पूछ सकते हैं।
  • सिट्ज बाथ को डिलीवरी के करीब 24 घंटे बाद ही करना चाहिए।
  • हर 2 से 4 घंटे में अपना पैड बदलें।
  • टांके के आसपास के क्षेत्र को साफ और सूखा रखें।
  • पेशाब या मलत्याग के बाद सहने योग्य गर्म पानी से गुदा और योनि को अच्छी तरह साफ कर किसी साफ तौलिया से सूखा लें।
  • गलती से भी टॉयलेट पेपर का उपयोग न करें।
  • स्टूल सॉफ्टनर (पेट साफ करने की दवा) लें और बहुत सारा पानी पिएं। इससे कब्ज आदि से बचाव होगा। ध्यान रहे कि स्टूल सॉफ्टनर डॉक्टर की सलाह पर ही लें।
  • फाइबर युक्त भोजन करें। अच्छे स्रोत वाले फाइबर खाद्य पदार्थों के लिए खाद्य विशेषज्ञ से सलाह लें।

आइए, अब लेख के भाग में जानते हैं कि टांकों की देखभाल किस तरह करें।

नॉर्मल डिलीवरी के बाद टांकों की देखभाल किस तरह करनी चाहिए? | Delivery Ke Bad Take Ki Dekhbhal

जैसा कि आपको बताया जा चुका है कि पेरिनियम क्षेत्र को डॉक्टरों के द्वारा फैलाने और अपने आप फैलने के इलाज और ध्यान रखने की सारी प्रक्रिया लगभग एक जैसी होती है (2)। इसलिए, नॉर्मल डिलीवरी के बाद भी लगने वालों टांकों की देखभाल एक ही प्रकार से की जा सकती है (6)। इसके लिए आप निम्न बातों का ध्यान रख सकते हैं:

  • 6 सप्ताह तक टैम्पोन (Tampon) का उपयोग न करें। टैम्पोन ऐसा प्रोडक्ट है, जो मासिक धर्म के दौरान योनि से निकलने वाले रक्त को साफ करने के लिए उपयोग किया जाता है।
  • 6 सप्ताह तक संभोग करने से बचें।
  • जॉगिंग, डांसिंग या वेट उठाने जैसे व्यायाम न करें।
  • कब्ज और कठोर मल से बचने के लिए फाइबर युक्त फलों और सब्जियों का सेवन करें।
  • कब्ज और मूत्राशय के संक्रमण को रोकने के लिए दिन में 8 कप (2 लीटर) पानी पिएं।
  • इसके अलावा, टांकों को रगड़ लगने से बचाएं। कोशिश करें कि टांकों वाली जगह सीधे पानी के संपर्क में न आएं।
  • टांकों को सूखने के लिए दी गई दवा या स्वास्थ्य सलाह का पालन करें।

आइए, अब जानते हैं कि टांकों को संक्रमण से कैसे बचाया जा सकता है।

डिलीवरी के बाद टांकों को संक्रमण से कैसे बचाएं?

डिलीवरी के बाद टांकों को संक्रमण से इस प्रकार बचाया जा सकता है (1),(2)

  • मलत्याग के बाद संक्रमण से बचने के लिए मलद्वार को आगे से पीछे की ओर साफ करें।
  • यूरीन करने के बाद टांकों को हल्के-हल्के हाथों से अच्छी तरह साफ करें।
  • टांकों को संक्रमण से बचाव के लिए डॉक्टर से भी जरूरी टिप्स लें।

लेख के अगले भाग में आपको जानकारी दी जाएगी कि आप टांके लगवाने से कैसे बच सकती हैं।

क्या मैं टांके लगवाने से बच सकती हूं?

टांके लगवाने के जोखिम को कम करने या उससे बचे रहने के लिए नीचे बताए जा रही बातों का ख्याल रखा जा सकता है (4):

  • एपिसियोटोमी (जिसमें डॉक्टर खुद पेरिनियम क्षेत्र में चीरा लगाते हैं) की जरूरत को कम करने के लिए आप नर्स या डॉक्टर से पेरिनेल क्षेत्र की मालिश के बारे में पूछ सकती हैं।
  • डिलीवरी के समय शिशु का सिर नजर आने पर डॉक्टर को उसे धीरे-धीरे बाहर निकालने के लिए कहें। इससे पेरेनियम क्षेत्र को फटने से रोका जा सकता है।
  • अपनी देखभाल करने वालों से कहें कि डिलीवरी के दौरान योनि क्षेत्र को अधिक खोलने के लिए चिकनाई वाले पदार्थ का उपयोग करें। इससे शिशु को बाहर निकलने में आसानी होगी और पेरेनियम क्षेत्र को नुकसान पहुंचने से बचाया जा सकता है।
  • इससे जुड़ी अन्य जानकारी के लिए आप एक बार डॉक्टर से भी सलाह ले सकती हैं। 

आइए, अब जानते हैं कि टांके किसी समस्या का कारण बन सकते हैं या नहीं।

क्या मुझे टांकों से भविष्य में कोई परेशानी होगी?

जैसा लेख के शुरुआत में बताया गया है कि टांके कुछ हफ्तों में अपने आप त्वचा में घुल जाते हैं, लेकिन एनसीबीआई की एक रिपोर्ट के अनुसार, एपिसियोटोमी के बाद भविष्य में कुछ जटिलताओं का सामना करना पड़ सकता है, जो कुछ इस प्रकार हैं (7)

टांके लगने के बाद कम समय के लिए होने वाली परेशानियां : 

  • खून बहना और खून की कमी होना।
  • घाव वाले स्थान पर सूजन आना।
  • घाव में संक्रमण होना।
  • गुदा की मांसपेशियों का फैलना।
  • यूरिन ट्रैक्ट इंफेक्शन होना।
  • मूत्राशय में चोट लगना।
  • रक्त का थक्का बनने लगना।
  • टांकों वाले स्थान में दर्द होना।
  • एपिसियोटोमी के कारण घाव होना।

टांके लगने के बाद लंबे समय तक होने वाली परेशानियां :

  • लंबे समय तक बना रहने वाला संक्रमण।
  • गुदा और मलाशय के कार्यों में असंतुलन।
  • मूत्र पर नियंत्रण रखने में परेशानी होना।
  • पेल्विक ऑर्गन प्रोलैप्स यानी पेल्विक ऑर्गन की मांसपेशियां का कमजोर होना।
  • यौन संबंधी रोग।
  • टांकों वाले स्थान पर दर्द।

डॉक्टर के पास कब जाएं 

डॉक्टर के पास निम्न स्थितियों में बिना देरी किए जाना चाहिए (2):

  • जब आपको टांकों वाली जगह पर असहनीय दर्द होने लगे।
  • अगर मल किए बिना 4 या उससे अधिक दिन बीत जाएं।
  • अगर डिलीवरी के बाद योनी से रक्त के थक्के निकल रहे हों।
  • अगर टांकों के पास से कोई खराब गंध आ रही हो।
  • अगर ऐसा लगे कि टांकें किसी कारण से टूट सकते हैं।

इस लेख में आपने पढ़ा कि कैसे सामान्य डिलीवरी के बाद भी मां को टांके की जरूरत पड़ सकती है। साथ ही आपको इसके सूखने, इससे बचे रहने और इसके जोखिम को कम करने के उपायों को बताने की कोशिश की गई है। हालांकि, इस दौरान किसी भी उपाय को आप अपनाने से पहले एक बार डॉक्टर की भी सलाह लें। साथ ही साथ टांके लगने के बाद मां का विशेष ध्यान रखें। टांकों में किसी भी विकार या दर्द के लक्षण दिखने पर डॉक्टर से संपर्क कर सकते हैं। अगर आप इस विषय के संबंध में और कुछ जानना चाह रहे हैं, तो आप नीचे दिए कमेंट बॉक्स के जरिए हमें संपर्क कर सकते हैं।

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